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“Society is wrong. Dead wrong. We’re taught that fake is beautiful.

We’re taught to believe miniature waists, and perfect tans are beautiful. We’re convinced that the blonde girls with the gorgeous smiles will win every time.

But, the truth is? Originality is beautiful. Big brown eyes, green eyes, blue eyes. Curves. Your natural skin tone is beautiful. Your hair color, Your smile, Your voice, your laugh, your personality. Every inch of you is beautiful, every single part of you shines with your essence.

You, my dear? You’re beautiful.

This  quote is so powerful.  I came upon when I was scrolling through Instagram. When I read this, I realize how true it is. I realized just how messed up society is. I realized how wrong society is. How wrong they are to be judging everybody who doesn’t have that perfect bikini belly, or those perfectly straight white teeth or even that perfect thigh gap we think we have to have in order to be beautiful.

I know that sometimes we don’t see ourselves the way we should, but we have to understand that you don’t have to be perfect because you are already worth it.

These past few years have been some of the hardest for me. I lost my dog, who I considered to be my best friend. Losing your best friend makes you feel lost and empty. It makes the days feel so long and slow.

All my friends have been with me through the ups and downs and I can’t thank them enough for what they have done for me.

A lot of the time when I went school, I would put on a  “mask” I cover up how I really felt.I don’t want people to look into my eyes and see what how much it hurt to lose my best friend. I would just smile because I didn’t like to talk about how I felt when I lost her.

When Maya died, It was a really dark and hard time for me. I didn’t want to get up in the morning, I didn’t want to get dressed… I didn’t really see a lot of beauty in this time.

The bible says everyone is beautiful in their own way, but truthfully I don’t see my beauty. Sure I will look in the mirror and think I look decent, but all it takes is just one bad angle or one bad picture and I immediately  go back to thinking things I shouldn’t.

I felt alone a lot of the time and it seemed as if  no one got me, it felt like I’m carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders.

My point is, that no matter how hard life gets and no matter how much you want to give up, you can’t. You have to stay strong. I understand what it feels like to feel so alone and to want to lock yourself up in your room and cry. You have to stay strong.

1 Peter 3:3-4 says” Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.  Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight”

I take this bible verse to heart. I believe that everyone and everything has beauty. Inside and out. Not everyone is going to see your beauty. But that’s okay. Not everyone see’s eye to eye. You are beautiful.

One day you will be proud of yourself. You will finally accept yourself and love yourself. no more negative thoughts. No more feeling sad, lonely or empty. No more hurting. This may be tomorrow or next week or maybe in 5 or 6 years from now. Be happy with yourself. Stay strong. God loves you. He loves every signal thing about you.

“Dear whoever is reading this, I understand how rough things are right now. I just want to let you know that things will get better, I promise. Keep holding on just a little bit longer. I know you feel like nobody cares. You’re wrong, stop denying it. I care. More then you know. You’re not alone, we may be all be different places, but we’re all going though something hard right now. Please keep holding on. Please.”

Don’t let anyone or anything get in the way of you seeing your beauty.

In case you haven’t heard this today:

-You are important

-you are needed here

-you are loved unconditionally

-you are born to stand out

-you are stronger then you think

-you are beautiful

-you are going to get through whatever you struggle with

-I care

REMINDER: You are loved

REMINDER: You are not alone

REMINDER: You are needed

REMINDER: You are absolutely beautiful

There are 3 choices in life: Give up, Give in or Give it your all.

God loves you. You are unconditionally loved. Don’t you dare forget that.

About Ashley Coulson

I love God more then I love food. I am just a regular girl who goes to SCA. Hope you like my writing. Smile :) its good for you.

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  1. Ashley, this is beautiful. You truly touched my heart through this. It took courage to write this, but thank you for doing so. You are strong; that is evident to anyone who has every looked you in the eyes. Please continue to love yourself as God loves you.

  2. This has made my WHOLE day Ashley! I have tears in my eyes from reading this it is so beautiful. You are so strong and courageous and amazing. Thank you for writing this.

  3. This is truly beautiful! I think everyone needs to reed this at least once!

  4. Ashley! This is so powerful 🙂
    This must have been so hard to share but I really appreciate it and im positive that everyone else does as well!

  5. Ashley!! Your writing is so important and powerful!! It’s such a demanding message that everybody needs to hear, good work girly:)

  6. i really needed to hear that today. thank you so much ashley.

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