Hey all! It’s been awhile and I miss you dearly.
As I’m getting acquainted with this new season in my life I have a few things I’d like to share with you all. It turns out the transition from high school to the outside world is not as smooth as I imagined it to be. The process of becoming an adult often feels like getting kicked in the face but I suppose the kicks in the face are necessary. Here are some life lessons I’ve learned in the past few months.
1. Things aren’t as black and white as they used to be. Sometimes there’s no clear cut answer and there are very few things in the world that are wholly good and wholly bad. There are some things that are mostly good and those things are worth pursuing. It’s okay not to know how you feel. It’s okay to be in the gray area.
2. Gratitude. I am grateful for the doors that God has opened this year and also for some of the doors He has closed too. There are some opportunities that simply do not fit with who you are at the time. Be grateful God knows where you’re at and what you can handle. God knows that I don’t have the capacity to be running at highway speeds in this season of my life and I think He’s okay with that too.
3. God isn’t contained to religion. Even wrapping my head around the concept that there is a higher power out there who cares enough to know me and get me takes a lot of effort. God is grander than I have the capacity to understand and cannot be contained to buildings, books or ceremonies.
4. Being a good friend means doing what’s best for them and not what you think is best for them. Even if you don’t always understand their intentions or motivations your job as a friend is to step in when needed and make their situations as bearable as possible. It is not your job to fix people or change them. It’s your job to show up.
5. Validate your emotions. For too long I’ve been taught to minimize problems and feelings for the sake of maintaining some semblance of balance. As it turns out, repressed emotions have a way of causing more damage under the surface than they ever would have if they had been brought to light and handled. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to not always feel top notch. Life isn’t always top notch. You don’t have to be Mr. Sunshine all the time. Acknowledge how you feel and go from there.
In conclusion, I am very glad I get to live in this terrifying and beautiful place called the outside world. It’s been wonderful to be able to learn and live and try.