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Comparing Catapults

Why do we compare ourselves? I know that you may be thinking that oh it’s just another one of those cliche love yourself kinda things that we all get sick of after hearing it for so long over and over again. You are loved, you are loved, just as you are. but after hearing these words so much they kind of loose their effect. as a girl who has grown up in an amazing home in an incredible family, I am so blessed. and I know that I am loved. I get told it every single day by both my family and friends. so if that is so, why is it then that I still compare myself to those around me. I a girl who is told this still has problems with comparing myself, you would think oh no she has it all together, perfect family perfect friends, she seems to have her life all put together. Please listen when I tell you, NOBODY HAS IT TOGETHER, nobody. That right there is probably one of the only things that humankind can actually all agree on. So after hearing that, why do you still compare?

Society. Society tells us what is “normal” and what your lifestyle should look like. all these things buzzing in the back of your brain like an angry group of wasps, waiting for their turn to come and sting your emotions and thoughts. My advice to you: block out those wasps. CHOOSE to block them out, choose to ignore, choose to choose better. Nobody except for you can make that choice.

As humans we definitely do not have control over everything. my oh my, if we did, let’s just leave that to being an imaginary gong show.  But what you DO have control over is yourself. You have the power to change your mindset on the way that you look at yourself and your life, both positive and negative. YOU choose to let those negative things creep into your life, so let me ask you, if YOU let those things creep into your life, why can’t you choose to rip them away from your life? If you can allow something you can control you can always find a way block it.

So then, how do you block it? How do you help yourself? Baby steps. First start with yourself, look to what makes you unhappy and what pushes your buttons in relationships. Think about the situation, and go through how you can step through the situation in a mature way, with others in mind and how to go about it in a way that is loving and respectful; how you would want to receive it. Above it all though, ask God, even if you don’t think that you have a relationship with him, or something like that, he will always listen. things won’t necessarily go the way that you expect it to go, but that’s because God is looking way down the road, past what you are capable of seeing, and he will lead you in the path that you need to take. All you have to do is listen with an open heart and mind and wait.

About lauren b

hey guys, i'm Lauren, i'm a pretty chill girl with a lot on her mind. i want to share all of the stuff that is in my brain, good or bad, because you know we all go through those good and bad things in life so why not go through them together. if your wondering what i like i love my dog and i am a dancer, also i am quite picky about my music and my fashion ;)

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18 comments

  1. Hey, as a guy I can’t say I really have an issue with comparing myself to other people. However what you said is great, another thing I’d greatly recommend is try meditating. A lot of meditation helps remove that nagging narrator voice in your head that constantly drags you down. Hope this helps 🙂

  2. This is so true. I guess I kinda knew about this in the back of my head but never actually tried to block all of it out. Thank you.

  3. this was a beautiful article. Good reminder that God knows better than we do how to steer our lives.

  4. I love the idea of baby steps, I feel in today’s society everyone is just force to believe that they are okay they are told to just put the feeling of not belonging or feeling like an outsider in the closet and try and forget about it, but that is not how someone is supposed to handle it.

  5. It’s so easy to compare ourselves to others, even though we may have a great life. Thanks for writing this

  6. This is the first one i have read and i can say that a lot of people can relate to this and that it is all broken down,to which it is really easy to read and follow along.

  7. hey, I think that if you are okay with yourself, then you won’t compare yourself to others. Self-acceptance is the key to happiness. Just thought someone might need to hear that. great article. 🙂

  8. This was beautiful great job!

  9. this was so good

  10. I agree with this article I think we should just let God take control and not worry about tomorrow.

  11. I love the connection to real-world problems everybody, no matter the background, feels and God. It’s always awesome to see how God fits into our life. Great article!

  12. a great reminder im perfect the way i am

  13. Great take on the subject, I really think you looked through a lens of reality. Thanks for sharing!

  14. Catherine Buzikevich

    Thank you for writing what everyone is thinking. This is a great reminder to just take a second and reflect and talk to God.

  15. yessss, very good article. Everything in it was true and it was nice how you tried to help at the end

  16. this is very true! there is many things in my life I have heard many times and think nothing of.

  17. very good! lots of people can relate to this and it is very well written!

  18. well said. i loved the last paragraph especially where you talked about the concept of baby steps and to listen with an open mind and heart and wait. That idea I think is really helpful to a lot of people.

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